Is it possible that you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t even know about it? Sounds a little weird, right? But the weirdness continues when according to some reports most of the time the partner doesn’t know that they are being abused because it is not the conventional way of abusing.

Being in an abusive relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that it has to involve hitting or abusing using cuss words or being called degrading names. Most of the times being in an Abusive relationship is more than that, most of the times it’s subtle and takes longer to recognise. The signs of domestic violence (DV) are not always very obvious and a lot of women don’t report that they’re being abused mainly because if they are confused. Even if they are aware they prefer to remain silent to sustain their relationship, some because they have nowhere to go as they are financially dependent on their partner, some for the sake of their children and some don’t even know that they are being abused.

Physical abuse is easy to recognize as it involves a physical act of violence, mental and psychological abuse are insidious and difficult to recognize and bring to light, as they are not in tangible form.

Some of the common signs of being in an abusive relationship are as follows  –

1.      The most common kind is psychological abuse wherein the person is not even aware of the fact that he/she is falling victim to an abusive relationship. Psychological abuse occurs when there is constant withdrawal of important information or that being provided in a manipulated form. For e.g. : Stating the half-truth, or completing denying of an instance.
2.      The other form involves denial, ignoring the other partner, avoiding to communicate, having an extra marital affair, isolating you from friends or family, threatening you that the would kill themselves if you leave them.
3.      Abusers in these relationships always find a way to make you believe that you being treated that way is your fault, they tend to manipulate the facts and make you question yourself. That’s the worst kind.
4.      The other very common sign is when they makeup to every fault of theirs by either saying, “ You know, it didn’t mean anything.” “But I love you babe” for you to believe that you might be overreacting. You need to understand that this is part of the dynamic and cycle of abuse.

All abuse be it of any kind takes a severe toll on self-esteem. Mainly on the mental health. If you are in an abusive relationship, I urge you to get out and with professional help if needed as that is the need of the hour. Staying in an abusive relationship does not only affect you but also people around you.

Take a step forward and speak up. Today, your speaking up can encourage other people to bring forward their stories. Bring the Change. Stand up for yourself and against what’s wrong.